The Adventures of Isabelle of Xamayca Book I is HERE!


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Are You Ready for an Exciting Journey?

Book I of the Adventures of Isabelle is here! If you have been following this chronicle you know that I have been working on books I and II for some time now. It’s been an exciting and at times arduous journey but the book is finally here!

Order your copy today and be entered in a drawing for tickets to the VIP Book Launch & Birthday Bash taking place Saturday May 30th in Potomac, MD!

View an Excerpt from The Adventures of Isabelle Book I

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“Write Your Own Heroine’s Quest” Free ONLINE Course-Intro

Welcome to the “Write Your Own Heroine’s Quest” Course. Please watch the introductory video below and see pre-work resources below the vid. (PLEASE NOTE Course start date changed to May 25)

I hope you can join us for this fun course of self-discovery. Due to several requests I have pushed the start date back to May 25th to give you more time for pre-work.

Strongly Suggested Resources & Pre-Work

1) Read this article on Joseph Campbell’s Monomyth/Hero’s Journey

2) Read “The Adventures of Isabelle Book I: The Embryo Goddess and the Morpho” (soft cover)

Adventures of Isabelle on Amazon Kindle (e-book)

3) Watch the movie Finding Joe  (an inspirational movie that takes you on the ultimate heroes journey: the journey of self discovery. As you slay dragons and uncover treasures, you just may find that the holy grail you seek is closer than you think.)

4) Read my white paper The Vision Realization Continuum 2015

If at any time you have any questions about the pre-work or the course please feel free to email me at Dr.Cutts@CuttsConsulting.com or at any of my social media sites below.

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Welcome to the Vision Quest Chronicles from Nicole Cutts


If you are a woman pursuing your Vision on the Heroine’s Quest join our tribe at the Vision Quest Retreats face book page

If you are a Woman Business Owner come play with us every Wed. at Women Owned Business Wednesdays; a 24 Hr Happy Hour where you meet cool people and win cool stuff!

I hope you enjoy the blog and vlog posts and leave some comments.

Much Continued Success & Well Being, xxoo Nicole

Nicole Cutts, Ph.D., CEO Cutts Consulting, LLC & Founder Vision Quest Retreats

 

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The Adventures of Isabelle Book I…READY TO ORDER!


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I’m happy to announce that after 4 yrs I’m publishing Book I of the Adventures of Isabelle! If you have been following this chronicle you know that I have been working on books I and II for some time now. It’s been an exciting and at times arduous journey but the final proof has been approved and the books will be here any day!

Pre-Order your copy today and be entered in a drawing for tickets to the VIP Book Launch & Birthday Bash taking place Saturday May 30th in Potomac, MD!

View an Excerpt from The Adventures of Isabelle Book I

Stay tuned to this blog and my Facebook page; Vision Quest Retreats with Dr. Nicole Cutts for more information on upcoming events.

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In Praise of Imperfect Moms on Mother’s Day

Mommy and Nick

Me and me mum

I remember the first time I was told I had a “good enough mother” I was in my early 20s in my then therapist’s office going on and on about the ways in which my mother had failed me as a child when my therapist said “It sounds like you had a ‘good enough mother*.'” At the time, not already a clinical psychologist and the more mature person I am today :-) I begged to differ! Today I know differently and I will tell you how.

Tomorrow is mother’s day, the day we honor mom, but also the day many of us compare our own moms against OUR perfect image of mom and wind up feeling lacking.  I don’t know about you but my mom was not perfect. At times our relationship has been kinda tough but today I am extremely grateful to have the mom that I have. Somewhat like the mother Queen Cythona in my new novel “The Adventures of Isabelle Book I: The Embryo Goddess and the Morpho” my mother could be quite an imperious and demanding figure. Also a brilliant and very practical woman this artistic, very sensitive, artistic Gemini baby gave her a run for her money. Needless to say heads often butted, hard battles fought and resentments accrued. At one point my perception was so bad that I thought I was in fact damaged by this relationship!

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Queen Cythona of Xamayca

The turning point in this perception came in the office of a very different therapist. He was a psychiatrist but atypical in that he was very spiritual. When I tried to complain about mom he just told me that on a spiritual level I had wished for and gotten the PERFECT mom for me! By the time I heard him say that I was mature enough to know it was the truth. I stopped complaining about mom and got down to my other spiritual work.

Today I’m so grateful that my mom and I have lived as long as we have to get to know and understand each other better. I’m also grateful I had the mom I had because it’s in large part why I am the woman that I am today (and I really like this woman).

Today I can I can look at all my mother DID for me versus wishing for what she DIDN’T do. I can view her as a necessity on my heroine’s quest, providing me with very important lessons and I can stop wishing for a different childhood.

Maybe Most Important! I have stopped haranguing her about stuff I didn’t appreciate and now take time to tell her thanks for all the things she did i.e. educating me, exposing me to the world. I sat down one day and wrote her a letter with all the things for which I’m grateful (she treasures this letter and probably pulls it out when I get on her nerves).

I know some people may read this and disagree. You may have had a horrible mom or you may have thought your mommy was perfect from the start. This is just my experience and understanding. If you are in the category of those who think you had a pretty bad mom I will suggest something that really helped me gain a new perspective.

Here’s a video of Neale Donald Walsch’s parable “The Little Soul and the Sun

Click here for Part 2 of Vid

Happy Mother’s Day to All Mother’s out there (yes even the imperfect ones),

Nicole

*Good Enough Mother-a term coined by pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott meaning a term for the ordinary and devoted mother who provides an adequate and good enough environment for the growth of the infant’s ego to be able to express its true self.

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Hope Floats in Bethesda, MD #wobw Fieldtrip

Hey check out my Women Owned Business Wednesday fieldtrip featuring Hope Floats in Bethesda, MD. Mention Women Owned Business Wednesday or Vision Quest Retreats when you reserve an appointment between now and May 20th and get 20% OFF Your Session!

I really enjoyed my quiet time in the tank. I love water anyway but this was different; so warm and I was almost weightless. I felt very quiet for some time after and slept like a baby that night. I look forward to my next session. What did I learn? The importance of just being still.

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End Procrastination Now!

Listen to Daily Drum Host, Harold T. Fisher and guests Dr. Nicole Cutts, Clinical Psychologist and Success Coach and William Rolack President & CEO, National Association of African Americans In Human Resources www.naaahr.org as they discuss procrastination, where it stems from and tips to end it.
From WHUR 96.3 FM Howard University Radio in Washington, DC (4.15.15)

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A letter from a recent workshop participant

It feels really good when I know that the work I do has helped someone to realize aspects of their vision of success. I recently received the following email from a woman who attended the “Create Your Ideal Life” workshop that I co-facilitated with Megan Tyson King of Making Travel Happen on Feb. 8 and I wanted to share it because  there is a lot of hope in it and it makes me feel very grateful.

“Good  afternoon Nicole. I wanted to thank you so much for inviting me to the create your ideal life workshop. It really helped me to put together my plan of action and implement my goals. As I mentioned at the workshop, I had been wanting to organize my life and specifically my house for a long time. It has been my New Year’s resolution for the past few years but I was stuck and could not find a clear path forward. After going to your workshop, I put things into action to tackle my mental block. Creating my vision board and the other exercises released something in me.

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R. Hunter’s vision board

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The junk they hauled away!

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my new bedroom

 

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I implemented the techniques I learned, which included asking for help when I needed it. I was able to turn my clutter into organization. I faced my fears of failure and being overwhelmed and I came up with a plan to bring about my vision. I hired a company to help me haul away junk and I stayed focused on the desires I wrote on my vision board. I  knew I had wanted to make changes for years. Your workshop helped me to find the way to a better me. I am loving my home and so happy now. I am looking forward to the next workshop where I learn other useful techniques to continue to turn my vision into a reality. Thank you again.

See pics attached of my vision board, the junk they hauled away, and our newly pained and cleared bedrooms!”  –R. Hunter

Thanks for letting me share,

Nicole

P.S. If you want info about our next event; an one-day retreat on March 28 click “Power Breakthrough Day” (Early Bird Pricing Ends March 9)

 

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The Success Doc on Air “How to Conquer Fear: Stories of Three Amazing Women”

Dr. Nicole Cutts Host/Producer of Inside Out on WPFW 89.3 FM in Washington, DC and guests Raychelle Leblanc co-author of “How the Fierce Handle Fear” comedian/producer Elizabeth Croydon & Dr. Mary Brittain, survivor and healer share their success stories; overcoming fear to live fabulous lives. For more tips on how to live your visions of success please visit my You Tube channel at TheSuccessDoc

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Overcoming the Fear of Success

 

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Success Doc ON AIR Tues. Feb. 24 2-3 est. on Inside Out 89.3 fm Washington, DC and ONLINE at www.wpfwfm.org (This Week’s Topic: Conquering Fear)

Why would anyone fear success?
No one wants to feel like a failure right? We all want to feel competent and successful right? Yes and no. It turns out people do want to feel competent and they strive for the feelings of happiness they associate with success but they often fear success itself. This fear is sabotaging and keeps many people from achieving the exact goals and successes that they want.

It’s a strange thing but many people are in fact ambivalent about success. Underlying beliefs and self-defeating thoughts conspire to repel people from succeeding. They strive and work hard yet fear continues to hold many back. In fact your fear may even get stronger the closer you get to achieving your goals and vision of success. (Those, like me, who are on the hero/heroine’s quest may liken this to dark forces attempting to stop you from achieving your mission.)facing_her_greatest_fear_by_domaicreations-d53awuq

Fear of success, or fear of getting what you want may also be fear of happiness. Ultimately fear of success is the fear of your own Power.

To create and sustain success it is essential to find and release any fear of success you may have. I will talk about how to do this further on. But first let’s look at why people fear success.

Reasons why people fear success:
Reason #1- Holding On to Negative Stories. One reason why people fear success is because they hold onto negative stories and beliefs about success and successful people.

Popular negative story titles include…
“It’s Lonely at the Top”
Chapters in this story include a) my success will make others feel less than, b) friends will be jealous of me, c) envy will make others revile me, d) I will be rejected, alone and lonely. This last belief may especially be a problem for women who are typically more relational and who in a patriarchal society are taught to be less powerful. We are often taught to be small and demure and supportive of others, not to lead or take the spot light. Through this lens success may be seen as unfeminine.

The woman holding these messages or beliefs fears that no man will want her if she is not the proverbial “damsel in distress.” By definition damsels are NOT successful and Prince Charming will not show up if you don’t need saving. This belief leads to another story entitled; “Some Day my Prince will NOT Come” so women who have this belief may stay small in order to be loved.

“Nice Guys Finish Last a.k.a. Mean Girls Finish First”
Chapter titles in this story include a) you have to be ruthless and selfish to succeed, b) it’s egotistical to want success, c) successful people are so full of themselves and d) to stay humble I must stay small.

Reason #2- Low Self Esteem is a Killer! The second reason people fear success is because they don’t believe they are good enough to deserve it or the happiness they believe will come with it. To succeed would be too much of a challenge to their deeply held view of themselves that they aren’t capable or good enough. Marianne Williamson sums this up best in her often quoted poem when she says “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”

Reason #3- Dreams are more fun than reality. The third reason why some people fear success is because it may be more fun to dream about it than to do it. In our dreams the attainment of our goals resembles a fairy tale in which we live happily ever after. We think success and reaching our goals will make us happy, but perhaps real life has shown us that sometimes what we dream of is not all it is cracked up to be. We may have expected happiness from goal attainment in the past and found that after a short while the glow wears off, so rather than achieve our dream and find it imperfect or mundane we would rather keep it as a fantasy and thus perfect.

Reason #4- Mediocrity is comfortable. This fourth reason is also a tricky one. Being mediocre is comfortable. It’s familiar. We resist the change of growth because it puts us closer to the unknown. The human brain resists change because we are wired to move toward certainty and to fear and move away from uncertainty. Also, sorry to say it but humans are lazy and we instinctually know that change requires more energy than to stay the same. To learn more about this check out neuroscientist David Rock’s explanation of the SCARF model of Influencing.

An addendum to the above reason is also related to laziness and fear of responsibility. Not succeeding means we don’t have to be responsible for what may come with success. Maybe we fear pressure in the future to sustain this success and not fail. By staying small/mediocre we avoid that responsibility and stress. In a convoluted way this aspect of fear of success is tied to fear of failure.

Reason #5- Your Ego is Not Your Amigo. Friedrich Nietzsche said “Whenever I climb I am followed by a dog called ‘Ego’” In many ways our ego and self-centeredness is at the root of the fear of success. One can see in the above reasons our desire for our own happiness, or our fear of being seen or fear of not being great or not deserving greatness. All of this is about ME, ME, and ME! It has nothing to do with others or being of service to others. This ties into our belief that success will bring happiness to us. Perhaps this shouldn’t even be our aim, but more on that in the discussion of the solution for fear of success below.

Tips to Overcome Fear of Success
Unseating the fear of success is not a quick and easy process but it is achievable and there are many paths you can take. I’ve listed a few below.jumping off cliff

1) Identify and let go of self-defeating stories and beliefs. As a success coach and therapist I often suggest clients do some self-exploration through journaling. You can use the questions below to start you off.
a) What stories and beliefs do you hold regarding success and successful people?
b) Where did you get the above stories?
c) What do you find frightening about success? What or whom might you lose by being successful?
d) Consider this: what would happen if you were to achieve the success you dream of? What if the job changed dramatically, the income surged, the relationships were vastly improved? Look beyond the obvious (“I’d be richer/happier/better off”) and ask yourself, “What demands would there be on me if…? What would I have to do or be differently?”
e) Write out your best and then worse-case scenario around your success? Can you live with either outcome?
f) Free form it! Just get quiet and think about it, reread the above reasons for fear of success. Write down whatever comes to mind.
g) Do I deserve to be successful? Why or why not?
After journaling you should be able to identify the form your fear takes. Write these down on a separate piece of paper. Say a prayer or some words you like to ask for help in releasing these things. Burn or bury this list of fears (any ritual that is environmentally friendly will do).

2) Practice courage. You can build up your courage muscles in areas unrelated to the area in which your goals lay. You can get brave by taking risks and challenging yourself in facing fearother areas. Some suggestions include a) do one thing each day that you are afraid to do, b) learn something new, like a sport or skill, c) get physical with it, like rock climbing, SCUBA diving or even doing head stands or warrior pose in yoga! Being brave will get in your emotional and muscle memory with practice. Find and root out self-defeating beliefs, stories and thoughts. i.e. “no one will love me.”

3) Get your self-esteem up! If low self-esteem is your problem start out by making a list of your assets. Everyday write down three good things you do in each day and five things for which you are grateful. Do things you are good at. Focus on your good qualities and STOP being hard on yourself. If you expect success to cure low self-esteem be prepared to be disappointed. You have to work on the self-esteem first. This one is a tough one and many people benefit from therapy and coaching around this. If you want to learn how I help clients with this check out my coaching and therapy services.

4) Smash Your Ego. Since ego is at the root of this fear it must be dealt with. Ask yourself why you want to be successful. If it’s because you want to be great, rich, admired, powerful (somehow protected from human suffering) then this is a clue that your ego is driving the boat. (Now if you want to be of service to others or bring joy or something good to them you are moving in the right direction so keep going). You have to shift your focus away from self and toward service and others. Now this doesn’t mean you have to suffer. Doing work you love is important and will help you to stay motivated. You can find joy in your work, but do not hinge your happiness on a single outcome.

5) Surround yourself with positive people. Give support and be supported by others who are on a similar path, successful happy people who want to see you succeed. Stay away from naysayers and haters and those who reinforce self-defeating and negative beliefs and stories (they are poison)!

6) Create your ideal life (free of fear). I hope you didn’t put that journal away. Now I want you to write the ideal scenario of your success with only positive feelings. Write this in the present tense and only write about positive things. After you write it, read it to yourself out loud. See it as possible. Feel the good feelings. After this or instead of this you may want to make a vision board.

7) Do all of the above. Join the Power Breakthrough Day March 28 where we will be focusing on the above and much more.breakthrough

I hope you found this article helpful. Leave a comment or visit me on Facebook at Vision Quest Retreats with Dr. Nicole Cutts

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Ft. Lauderdale/Everglades Safari 2015

I hope you enjoy these images from our weekend retreat to Ft. Lauderdale Florida over President’s Weekend.

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