Coping with Disappointment, Loss and Hurt


In light of our recent elections many Americans (my clients and myself included) have been processing our grief and disappointment and I want to offer something that may help folks¬†cope and even thrive through this time and beyond. While I have many political and socio-cultural opinions I am not an expert in those areas so I’ve decided to stay in my wheelhouse as I approach offering help to those around who may either be suffering or just challenged with coping with disappointment, loss and the resultant grief.

As a psychologist, success coach and organizational consultant I favor simple and elegant solutions like the use of the “Serenity Prayer” and the exercise below. That being said these solutions are not necessarily “easy” real growth never is. So here goes…

God/Goddess (Higher Power), Grant me the SERENITY to ACCEPT¬†the things I can’t, the COURAGE to CHANGE the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference.

  1. List the things you can’t change i.e. other’s attitudes or opinions, the outcome of elections and contests.
  2. List the things you can change or better yet DO i.e. change your attitude, volunteer, work for social justice, love someone, forgive, get to work!
  3. DO the things you CAN (Maybe not all of them but you can do something)!to-do-list
  4. Keep praying for acceptance, courage and wisdom to discern the difference between 1 and 2.
  5. STOP wasting your energy complaining or just being mad. That leaches the energy you NEED to DO something and it helps no one. That being said you can benefit from speaking about how you feel but that is different than complaining.
  6. Take a look at my video above that may help too. Please note the definition of real success according to the mission of Vision Quest Retreats must include bringing something of value to the world and others. It does NOT mean success just for you so you can think you are great…LOL.

I hope the above helped,

Nicole

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For over 12 years Nicole Cutts, Ph.D., licensed Clinical Psychologist, Success Coach, Author and Organizational Consultant has been inspiring and empowering people to achieve a more balanced and successful lifestyle. Dr. Cutts has consulted with and trained executives, managers, and teams at Fortune 500 Companies, Federal Government Agencies, and Non-Profit Organizations. As a master facilitator and Success Coach, she helps people create an exceptional life by honoring their mind, body, and spirit so they can experience joy, passion, meaning, and ultimate success in their work.
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